I’m heart broken about the rise in suicide deaths recently 💔. Please check in
with your strong and smiling friends because we’re learning that there isn’t always an obvious sign that a person is depressed or planning to take their own life so you’ll just need to pay closer attention to the little things that are often overlooked. It’s not always like the TV antidepressant ads that show people looking sad all the time. Often we suffer in silence. We show you what we believe you need to see. We pacify you with a smile because we love you and we don’t want to burden you. This behavior is least expected from those of us with a larger than life personality, like our beloved Cheslie Kryst. As a person that has been diagnosed with major depressive disorder, I happen to know the art of cover up. This “craft” is especially handy when you’re trying to maintain the public persona that you’re unbreakable. We tend to overcompensate for that by appearing to be happy and okay but the reality could be that we’re completely overwhelmed and in desperate need of a solution fast. Many of us actually schedule time to cry and time to beat ourselves up emotionally when nobody’s around. Then we put on that under eye concealer to cover up the bags under our eyes from excessive crying, whip out that smile and keep pushing through until we can’t. We may even get a little clumsy from time to time, accidentally leaking an alarming clue to family and close friends but if you’re like me, you’ve learned to be so careful and so discreet that you rarely leave a trace of suspicion. Unfortunately many don’t realize there’s a problem until it’s too late. Where are all my shower and bathroom criers at? Where are all my “wait til they’re all asleep late at night” criers at?? Believe me I know what you’re going through and I know your struggle to function daily and suffer in silence. I know that you’ve probably discovered that sleep feels like an escape away from the negative thoughts and the physical pain caused by depression and then shame can creep in and keep you secluded from the outside world. Maybe the things you once loved nolonger excite you. That’s usually temporary. You’ll get it back with time and the right clinical guidance. I also know how hard it is to peel yourself out of bed to shower and comb your hair and I know you are probably always worrying about things you can’t control. I bet you feel alone even when you’re not and you probably feel like nobody understands, or that you won’t be accepted or that you won’t be missed if you go away. That’s the illness telling you that. Don’t believe it and don’t believe any human that says it. Thankfully I was able to get the treatment I needed in order to keep my balance and I'm okay for now but depression is a constant battle for people like me. With help we can manage it and learn to live a fulfilling life. Your greatest expression of strength is in seeking help. You are loved, you are wanted, you are needed and you are necessary ♥️. God created you and placed you to do great things. We will all be broken hearted if you take your life so please don’t. Think about the people youd leave behind. Don’t believe the negative thoughts that invade your mind to steal your joy like a thief in the night. If you’re ever considering death as an option please ask me or anyone you trust to give you one good reason to stay alive and I bet we can help you come up with a ton of reasons that may have slipped your mind. Matter of fact I ask anyone that’s reading this to please contribute at least ONE REASON TO LIVE in comments. Sometimes we just need to be reminded. We need to hear it. We need to see it during the times we’re not emotionally capable to rely on blind faith. Ask me and I’ll tell you myself. Death is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. The storm will soon pass. You might get wet but you won’t be broken. You’ll get your spark back. Everything will work itself out as long as you just hang in there and believe it. Trust the process. Don’t cheat yourself out of an opportunity to see your full potential or to bless others with your wisdom, your love and your presence. You’re so close. Don’t give up now. Allow God a chance to show you the way. You’ll never be weak for seeking help. Give someone a chance to help you see that today. 📞📱💬…. #prayerworks
If anyone reading this has something helpful to add please do so in comments or feel free to inbox me.
The National Suicide Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals in the United States.: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org
My prayers and condolences are with the families of Cheslie Kryst and others that took their own lives. I’m so sorry. I pray that you find peace and I pray that you find purpose from your loss 🙏🏼 sb. “…I ask anyone that’s reading this to please contribute at least ONE REASON TO LIVE in comments” -sb
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The following is a short clip of a conversation I had recently on Facebook using their audio live app.
We are loved by family and friends but most of all by God.
I'm not gonna act like I didn't hesitate to read this. It's hard because even when you start to feel better, that negative voice can start talking again. I learned that a lot of the things we do to cover up our depression is learned through the reactions of others. If people react negatively to you asking for help or constantly negate your feelings, you begin to believe you're feelings don't matter and therefore you don't matter. It's so sad to me. In July, it will be 2 years since a Japanese actor I adored committed suicide and that's still really hard to accept. And you're right. It's always people you don't expect. They are usually the happiest and friendliest…
This was absolutely heartbreaking. You are absolutely right- she appeared to have it all. We just never know what demons people fight in silence.
#OneReasonToLive